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Monday, 30 March 2009

something that is difficult for me to understand about a lot of Christian guys is they feel the need or the right to date around, get to know (aka flirt) with multiple females, keeping their options open, until they figure out which one they want to date. all the while the girls are feeling like they are special and the only one getting the attention. a lot of times these types of "Christian daters" use the excuse that it's "God's calling" and "God's plan for them" to not settle down yet but be friends with many girls at one time.

ok, let's be honest: this is a complete cop-out for Christian guys who just want to get to know many girls while making it seem like it's their calling.

i know a guy who does this. he's big into missions work and wants a girl to be his wife and they can do missions work together. however, in the search for a wife, he feels the needs or right to talk to more than one girl at one time claiming he's not leading them on because he just "wants to get to know them" as friends. i'm sorry, but you can't flirt with a girl continuously and not expect her to feel like you are actually into her. then to pull out the God card and say, "i don't think God wants us to be together." you know, if you were listening to God in the first place, things wouldn't be this way.

why do a lot of Christian guys use God to talk to many girls? i just don't understand...

Saturday, 14 March 2009

for Christians who have been in long term relationships and broken up, is it possible to still love one another as brothers and sisters in Christ and be friends?

i've been in a debate over this issue with a couple people and i know that it's ideal to still be friends after a break-up, whether or not it was mutual isn't even an issue. every long-term relationship that ends, in my opinion, still has heartache during the aftermath and it's not as easy for girls to just recover and be friends still without lingering emotions getting in the way. quite possibly, 7-12 months after the breakup, the two people can become friends again, but i don't believe it's possible so quickly after the breakup.

what do you think?

Wednesday, 04 March 2009

i'd like to write a book.
it'd be a Christian dating book.
not a traditional dating book either.
it'd be a break-up book.

would you read it if i did?

p.s.- i am only half kidding...

Monday, 02 March 2009

i've been struggling. i have never felt so inadequate before. i'm surrounded by people who are intelligent, graduating from ivy-league schools... and then there's me. and i question where God sees me going right now because i have no idea... i feel as though i'm walking blindly. at one point i was so sure of myself, but now it seems so distant. i'm blessed with support parents and an even greater supportive fiance. i somehow still don't believe in myself. it's wrong on so many levels because i believe in the power of God and His power to change people and lead people. at the same time, i have so little faith in me.

it's a contradiction isn't it?

in these most desperate times, i have no choice but to rely on God. if i have no faith in myself, i have to be willing to have faith in God.

i've been listening to matt redman's "breathing the breath" and there's a line in his song that goes:
we have nothing to offer you that you didn't first give us...

and it's so true because we praise God with the things that He's first given us. so many times we think we're worthy and we're not, but through the blood of Christ we are. i still find it difficult to go before God because i feel as though i'm not even worthy... even after knowing that Christ shed His blood for me. it's something i think a lot of us need to realize: we are worthy through His blood!

and there is nothing that could ever take that away from us... even the little inadequacies we feel about ourselves in our moments of weakness.

Jesus still lives.

Wednesday, 04 February 2009

sometimes in conversations with other Christians, i'll notice statements such as:

"I would never live there."
or
"I would never wear that."

and sometimes I wonder if it's Christians being stuck-up or if it's just a matter of preference. I was talking to a friend today about where I would live next year and mentioned an area of town that wasn't upperclass, but more of bohemian/hippy/organic type of neighborhood. a lot of the homes in the area are older and more rundown looking.

she said, "ew, don't live there."

it makes me wonder if we as Christians are a little too quick to judge and think we are superior. it makes me uncomfortable to think that we would only venture into those types of neighborhoods because of a "service project," but not because we really wanted to. then once the service project is over with, we go back to our cushy lifestyles where we're comfortable with our circle of friends. granted, not all Christians think this way and i think it's great that they don't. however, more often than not, i've come across Christians who make comments that give them a feeling of superiority that i'm not really comfortable with. is it that we've become too attached to the world? then when we feel like being Christians, we put on our good sunday clothes and talk about God to the people in homeless shelters that we only see once a year?

i know Jesus never lived a cushy lifestyle and it's not that radical to think that maybe we should leave our belongings behind and take up our cross to follow Him.