for Christians who have been in long term relationships and broken up, is it possible to still love one another as brothers and sisters in Christ and be friends?
i've been in a debate over this issue with a couple people and i know that it's ideal to still be friends after a break-up, whether or not it was mutual isn't even an issue. every long-term relationship that ends, in my opinion, still has heartache during the aftermath and it's not as easy for girls to just recover and be friends still without lingering emotions getting in the way. quite possibly, 7-12 months after the breakup, the two people can become friends again, but i don't believe it's possible so quickly after the breakup.
what do you think?
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I think it depends on the amount of interest, time and feelings involved. If one person wants the relationship and the other person doesn't want it then as long as one person has feelings then they will be unwanted.
If the breakup is mutual, I don't see why the people can't be friends but I there are some women who believe they should not have guys as friends. There are also women who can't be friends in a breakup if the woman has feelings because they will continue to feel "hurt".
It depends on the maturity level in the realationship as well and it depends on how each one treated the other in the relationship, how people break up and how they were treated after the break up. It depends on how long they have been friends
When I put my wedding ring on, it represents "no chance" so there are fewer women willing to talk to me because I represent "no opportunity" and because of that I'm not fun.
The other facts are that when women get married, they don't want their old guy friends around because they don't want their mates insecure and it is the same with guys.
As far as forgiveness goes, we can forgive but still hurt. It is only until someone walks with us in that hurt that we can heal.
I've had three female friends who didn't continue in friendship with me after they expressed their feelings and breakups represent "hurt" and people don't like pain so they shy away. And there are a lot of women who are shy and some are afraid of men.
It took me almost 4 years, and honestly, i am surprised it ever really happened.
I think it's probably a different answers for everyone based on a whole slew of different factors. But at the very least, I think it's unfair to your future mate to keep anyone from your past hanging around. I know I wouldn't like it, and I'm always sure to cut ties for the sake of honoring my current relationship.