i've been thinking about marriage a lot lately. yes, this is one of those posts about marriage. why do people write so much about marriage and relationships? because it has so much to do with and everything to do with God's love for us.
my dear love and i have been talking about getting married. last night into the wee hours, we talked about our purpose together before God. we know that we're now ready to get married, not because we want to spend the rest of our lives together, but because God has prepared us as single people and the next step in God's plan for us is to use our gifts together to glorify Him. that is why the gift of singleness is so great. God prepares us and grows us to one day fit with another person to serve God together.
i strongly feel that God's purpose for marriage is to serve Him and not ourselves. on top of that, marriage is an example of God's covenant with the church - to never leave or forsake us. that is why i've decided that divorce will never be an option for us. getting a divorce is the equivalent of saying that God will one day leave us because he no longer loved us or wanted to be with us. God's covenant is forever with the church and when He made that promise, it was forever. "let no man break apart what God has put together." that's what they say at the wedding isn't it? why do we feel that we have a right to break apart what God has created? our society has so watered down God's covenant to us, marriage, that divorce is okay and we feel that we have a right to break it apart.
that is why i also believe that same sex marriage is not right under the eyes of God. the law in America may one day say something different, but under God, same sex marriage will never be justified. God didn't make a covenant with Himself; the Church does not make a covenant with itself. God and the Church go together like a man and a woman go together. same sex marriage would make a mockery of God's everlasting promise to the church. yes, God created love and it's great that we choose to love one another, but to say that same sex marriage is right would mean that God's covenant is irrelevant.
it's too often that we get married simply because we want to and it makes us happy. we don't realize that marriage means so much more than what we think it does. God calls us to get married because we are to serve Him with one heart when we are married. He's prepared this for us in advance. Jesus didn't suffer and die on the cross so that we could later divorce Him and break the promise. i know that there are Christians who have divorced and God doesn't condemn them. He still loves them and knows that they have broken hearts and wants them desperately... to rediscover that His promise is still for them and still stands strong.
God's love is no joke and it's more powerful than we could ever know. when we stand and worship God, there are sometimes moments when God whispers to us and we fall to our knees because we are in the presence of God. even when we think we should stand and worship Him, ultimately we are on our knees before Him. if a whisper from God can bring us to our knees, how much more can His love do to us? it picks us up and raises us from the dead and keeps our hearts beating for Him.
God's love is magnificent and He loves us through all our denials and rejections. He is good and sufficient.
Comments (13)
This is a wonderful post!! And an excellent point about same sex marriage. I agree with you completely. Thanks for writing this.
very very very insightful ideals... completely and wholeheartedly agree...
i didn't even consider the whole covenant thing till u wrote on it... wow... very VERY insightful...
kudos....
@quiet_strength - thank you for reading my random entries!
@leadworshipper82 - as much as i'd like to take credit for the covenant thing, i read it on john piper's website www.desiringgod.org and it just made complete sense to me.
@le_meme_chose - well... if you got it from John Piper (being a huge fan of him) then he's right and I happen to agree fully...
thats an awsome post thanks
This is a gorgeous, gorgeous post.
Thank you. I am blessed. (And I will return to read again!)
Great post! I agree about marriage being a covenant between one man and one woman. Our relationship, the church and Jesus is suppose to be reflected in the marriage relationship. With the husband loving the wife as Christ loved the Church. Christ gave His life for the Church. The wife honoring and respecting the husband in submitting to him as the head of the family as the Church submits to Christ. There should be no problem submitting to Christ when He loves us and has our best interest in mind. There should be the same for submitting to the husband if His heart is right with God and he has the right kind of love for his wife.
Beautiful post. :] I love how you explained the covenant between God and the church.
this was awesome and a million percent on point!
I agree with you 100% GREAT POST
Interesting post. I like the new angle on it. Your post seems to emphasize the importance of keeping a commitment, a covenant as you put it, especially when sanctioned under God. I am curious, in regard to same sex couples, what do you say in regards to the gay Christian couple (they do exist) who have been together for 40 plus years and who are still deeply in love? Are their experiences irrelevant because they are not of the opposite sex?
@g1monkee@xanga - this one takes a little bit longer to answer and i'm not sure i'll explain it very well here. i definitely don't think their experiences are irrelevant. feelings are feelings, no matter what your sexual orientation is.
however-even in the cases of the homosexual Christian couple who has been together for decades still is not seen as right under God. (in my opinion, anyway.) the way the Bible puts it, homosexuality is still a sin, the same as any other sin. the difference between a practicing homosexual Christian and a straight Christian as that the homosexual Christian knows that the homosexual acts are wrong, yet is okay with living a homosexual lifestyle. (this is obviously different for someone who believes they are homosexual, but does not live a homosexual lifestyle.) a straight Christian still has sin in his/her life, but is not okay with the sin and it is an everyday struggle whereas the homosexual Christian has accepted that his/her lifestyle is ok.
does that make sense? like i said, i'm not even sure if it comes across clearly what i'm trying to say. regardless, i don't condemn homosexuals, Christian or not. people are people. just because i don't agree with someone's lifestyle does not mean i look down on them.
if it doesn't make sense, let me know and i will try to clarify what i'm trying to say.