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Saturday, 25 April 2009

it came out this past week that the drug Plan B also known as the morning after pill will now be available to individuals who are 17 and over to purchase without a prescription. there's a huge debate from both the pro-lifers and pro-choicers on whether or not this is right. i believe in life and life at conception, but i don't see how Plan B has anything to do with abortion. the drug in effect is not killing a baby. it is preventing a sperm from fertilizing an egg. i guess i just may not understand the pro-life argument for raising the age for Plan B purchasers because to me, it prevents a person from getting pregnant who then later will have to decide on whether or not to abort that child. isn't it better that we prevent those kinds of abortions before a child is even created?

of course it's true that people should not be sleeping together if they are not ready to raise a child, but we also need to be realistic here. people are going to do that regardless and if we can prevent pregnancies and abortions, i don't see a problem with allowing 17 and up teens to purchase the drug.

perhaps it's the lesser of two evils that i'm arguing here because i would rather see someone take Plan B before getting pregnant, rather than later choosing to abort the child. in any event, i actually don't believe that Plan B is an evil thing. i think it prevents the mother from making the decision to abort in the first place. at the same time, Plan B should not be used in place of a birth control. i don't know the long-term effects of the drug and i don't think most people consider that when they are in the situation of having to purchase it in the first place. there is no evidence linking an increase in sexual activity with the Plan B drug so until someone comes up with solid statistical analysis of a link, Plan B seems to be the better solution in preventing unnecessary abortions.

Wednesday, 08 April 2009

a few months ago i wrote about the struggles my fiance and i were having with our wedding. through months of prayer, i am so happy to say that we have surpassed the biggest hurdle along the way. we had our cultural wedding ceremony a few weeks back and it went a lot better than we had anticipated. originally, my fiance's side of the family was not going to participate because we wanted to have a Christian ceremony without doing the cultural rituals his family requested. it was a huge struggle for us and we almost broke off the wedding altogether. however, with our friends and family praying for us every step of the way, God provided for us and both families came together under God. although his side of the family has not yet accepted Christ, it was a blessing to know that God worked in their lives to see why we felt so strongly about having a Christian wedding without doing the cultural rituals of ancestral worship.

the entire time i had very little faith that his side of the family would understand since they didn't know God. however, Jesus also said that all it takes is faith the size of a mustard seed in order for God to move mountains. God has been more than faithful to us even when we were on the verge of splitting up because of the differences in faith from both sides of the family. i continue to believe that miracles still happen; our wedding and marriage would never have even been possible had it not been for God and the transformation in our hearts to really live for Him and not for our own selfish needs. although we will continue to struggle with ourselves and God's purpose for us, i have faith that God loves us unconditional and wants our hearts to be connected with His.

God is good!

Monday, 30 March 2009

something that is difficult for me to understand about a lot of Christian guys is they feel the need or the right to date around, get to know (aka flirt) with multiple females, keeping their options open, until they figure out which one they want to date. all the while the girls are feeling like they are special and the only one getting the attention. a lot of times these types of "Christian daters" use the excuse that it's "God's calling" and "God's plan for them" to not settle down yet but be friends with many girls at one time.

ok, let's be honest: this is a complete cop-out for Christian guys who just want to get to know many girls while making it seem like it's their calling.

i know a guy who does this. he's big into missions work and wants a girl to be his wife and they can do missions work together. however, in the search for a wife, he feels the needs or right to talk to more than one girl at one time claiming he's not leading them on because he just "wants to get to know them" as friends. i'm sorry, but you can't flirt with a girl continuously and not expect her to feel like you are actually into her. then to pull out the God card and say, "i don't think God wants us to be together." you know, if you were listening to God in the first place, things wouldn't be this way.

why do a lot of Christian guys use God to talk to many girls? i just don't understand...

Saturday, 14 March 2009

for Christians who have been in long term relationships and broken up, is it possible to still love one another as brothers and sisters in Christ and be friends?

i've been in a debate over this issue with a couple people and i know that it's ideal to still be friends after a break-up, whether or not it was mutual isn't even an issue. every long-term relationship that ends, in my opinion, still has heartache during the aftermath and it's not as easy for girls to just recover and be friends still without lingering emotions getting in the way. quite possibly, 7-12 months after the breakup, the two people can become friends again, but i don't believe it's possible so quickly after the breakup.

what do you think?

Wednesday, 04 March 2009

i'd like to write a book.
it'd be a Christian dating book.
not a traditional dating book either.
it'd be a break-up book.

would you read it if i did?

p.s.- i am only half kidding...